Hand jobs are seriously underrated. At the same time, they're something many people without penises worry about getting right. It's definitely worth asking your penis-having partner what they like in an HJ - what speed, pressure and motion works for them. Because sometimes, you just cba with penetrative sex and there is nothing wrong with that, at all.

Here, some people with penises have taken to Reddit to explain what makes a damn fine hand shandy.

1. "Flat palms. Both hands starting at the collarbone, down the chest and stomach, then along either side of his cock, and out along his inner thighs is nice. Or shorter caresses, along the inner thighs away from the top down toward his knees or, even better, starting at the inner thigh above the knees, up toward his balls, then ending with fingertips or light fingernails along his scrotum. Mix it up!

Ruben Chamorro

"Edging has an inherent rhythm to it. Stimulation building up to the breaking point, then backing off just enough to maintain a plateau of pleasure (this involves backing off way more than you think, if he's close to cumming - dial it back to just a few light touches, maybe some sucking on just the very tip of his cock). Then building back up, and backing off again. I really love this more than anything else." [via]

2. "It all feels good. A good tug is important. You can dual-wield it and apply a firmly-pressured stroke with one hand, while relegating the other hand to a lubed rub mainly using the palm of your hand, in a kind of circular motion. Try to keep a constant rhythm." [via]

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3. "Stroke it and don't be afraid that you're going to hurt it (you can hurt it. Don't bend it or bite it). Seriously, the chances of you hurting the peen from a thorough stroke are unlikely. The sack and its contents are where you should show caution." [via]

4. "I personally like lots of teasing at first. Slow soft strokes, light scratches with the nails and light caresses with the fingertips. Lots of attention to the inner thighs and testicles, with the occasional light stroke up and down the shaft. Mix up the fingertips and flat palm. I also personally love light touches (at first) around my butthole (but, check first - not all guys like ass play.). As things escalate, stronger strokes up and down my cock, fingertip in my asshole, more ball play. Attitude makes a huge difference - sometimes the more dominant eye contact, "I'm here to work you over" attitude is fun, other times the more submissive "What can I do to please you" attitude is fun." [via]

Katie Buckleitner

5. "Use different strokes/touches and don't forget the balls. Keep him guessing, and build anticipation until the final countdown." [via]

6. "Rhythm is crucial. You can speed up or slow down as a tease, but at least stay somewhat consistent. And work the whole junk area, its a massage." [via]

7. "Slow down and touch more softly. If you're stroking his shaft with a strong grip, you'll make him come. You can communicate about it while you're doing it, and this is fun (and can be a huge turn on)." [via]

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8. "Best way is with careful enthusiasm, and if necessary, some lube. Make sure he knows he can tell you what he wants. Thumb should be towards the head, little finger towards the base; thumb and forefinger basically moving up and down around the top of the shaft/ back of the head. Use some wrist, don't just go at like a jackhammer with your bicep/tricep controlling everything." [via]

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