The other night, as I was down there on my boyfriend, I looked up to see that he was asleep! He'd been drinking that night, but still. I've refused to do anything since. He has apologized and swears it's not a big deal, but is that really something that normally happens with guys?

He must have been hammered. Guys may have short attention spans, but they can stay awake for that. Even the worst BJ in the world wouldn't have the effect of putting a guy to sleep; it'd just make him eager to move on to full-on sex. So it had nothing to do with your skills.

Nevertheless, it was a stupid thing for him to do. Imagine if the situation were reversed, and you fell asleep while he was pleasuring you. He'd be crushed. And now he's made things worse by saying it wasn't a big deal. Well, it was to you. He should have seen how hurt you were and done whatever it took to make you feel better.

Still, don't withhold sex for too long. It's cruel and unusual punishment — after all, he didn't fall asleep while someone else was attempting to please him — and you'll seem vindictive. Make sure he's aware of how upset you were, and let him know that the next time he plans on having more than a couple of drinks, he had better also plan on not having sex with you. That should sober him up pretty quickly.

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